The birds still fly, the bees still buzz and the breeze still blows. A million things could be happening but these things still remain true across the board. A bird does not stop flying because it’s nest was destroyed. The bee does not stop buzzing and pollinating because it hasn’t found a flower in twenty minutes and the breeze continues to blow whether the the sun is shining and or the clouds are heavy. A good reminder that just like our troubles in life can take ahold of our present, we can also be like the birds, bees, and breeze; continuing on our regular scheduled path even in times of turmoil.
The key would be to continue doing the things you know you MUST do in order to remain normal, safe and content. The simple stability we can achieve through routine tasks is what keeps us from being in a place that we have zero control over. The places we fall victim to when we lose our ability to fly, buzz and blow a gentle breeze.
When we forget these simple, everyday tasks we are able to control, and then lose control of things we were never in complete control of anyways, suddenly the entire world seems to feel out of reach. Being able to draw the line in the sand between what we can and cannot do is important and remember to always put effort into those things we can do.
The truth is, the more we can do and do well, the more strength and courage we have to take on those things we “can’t” do.
Let’s say you have ALWAYS been an amazing organizer, you are able to systematically do any task in a neat and simple way. Suddenly, you have nothing more to organize.. everything around you is neat and things suddenly seem out of control for you. Well, take that thing you can do (organize) and find a way to organize what you cannot do.
What can’t you do? What is something that is making you unhappy, that you simply cannot do anything to change or control it? Organize it! Find a way to systematically change the task into something you can do. Because you know you CAN organize, so truthfully speaking you CAN organize what you can’t do. Get it?
Suddenly, those things you can’t do, get easier because by applying what you know to a new and more difficult situation, you have taken the first steps in learning how to add those cannot’s to your can’t list.
Say you have always been a great communicator, and something has come up where you have to do something with NO help, no one to discuss your issues or concerns or ideas with, suddenly communicating is out of the question! So you panic, who to turn to? Well, here is a great idea: communicate your own ideas on paper, or in your mind? Think of what someone you know or have known in the past would say or take your own advice for once!
Another example for you, you have always been a fitness guru, someone who enjoys working out. Fitness is your practice and what you CAN do. Something has come up that you CAN’T do.. it is so out of your realm and reach that you are feeling out of control. Apply the same exact system you do to work out, your discipline and how you motivate yourself to attack your new problem.
Depression has a funny way of slipping through the cracks of what we know and taking control of the things we have already mastered. When we lose our ability to always be on top of things we should never lose our simpler truths that keep us in check every other day.
Losing grasp on who we are intrinsically, is the real way we lose the grasp on who we could be potentially. Also, our truest abilities are our ticket to overcoming depression all together. Every single human on the face of this earth is born with a light inside, something that keeps them going and it is what they do with that light that determines who and what they will be and be able to do.
When we are out of control we sometimes assume we have no way to gain a foothold because we are not used to the lack of knowledge of the subject. So, instead of giving up or losing our mind, let’s do what we CAN instead of what we can’t.