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Doing what you can, instead of what you cannot.

The birds still fly, the bees still buzz and the breeze still blows. A million things could be happening but these things still remain true across the board. A bird does not stop flying because it’s nest was destroyed. The bee does not stop buzzing and pollinating because it hasn’t found a flower in twenty minutes and the breeze continues to blow whether the the sun is shining and or the clouds are heavy. A good reminder that just like our troubles in life can take ahold of our present, we can also be like the birds, bees, and breeze; continuing on our regular scheduled path even in times of turmoil.

The key would be to continue doing the things you know you MUST do in order to remain normal, safe and content. The simple stability we can achieve through routine tasks is what keeps us from being in a place that we have zero control over. The places we fall victim to when we lose our ability to fly, buzz and blow a gentle breeze.

When we forget these simple, everyday tasks we are able to control, and then lose control of things we were never in complete control of anyways, suddenly the entire world seems to feel out of reach. Being able to draw the line in the sand between what we can and cannot do is important and remember to always put effort into those things we can do.

The truth is, the more we can do and do well, the more strength and courage we have to take on those things we “can’t” do.

Let’s say you have ALWAYS been an amazing organizer, you are able to systematically do any task in a neat and simple way. Suddenly, you have nothing more to organize.. everything around you is neat and things suddenly seem out of control for you. Well, take that thing you can do (organize) and find a way to organize what you cannot do.

What can’t you do? What is something that is making you unhappy, that you simply cannot do anything to change or control it? Organize it! Find a way to systematically change the task into something you can do. Because you know you CAN organize, so truthfully speaking you CAN organize what you can’t do. Get it?

Suddenly, those things you can’t do, get easier because by applying what you know to a new and more difficult situation, you have taken the first steps in learning how to add those cannot’s to your can’t list.

Say you have always been a great communicator, and something has come up where you have to do something with NO help, no one to discuss your issues or concerns or ideas with, suddenly communicating is out of the question! So you panic, who to turn to? Well, here is a great idea: communicate your own ideas on paper, or in your mind? Think of what someone you know or have known in the past would say or take your own advice for once!

Another example for you, you have always been a fitness guru, someone who enjoys working out. Fitness is your practice and what you CAN do. Something has come up that you CAN’T do.. it is so out of your realm and reach that you are feeling out of control. Apply the same exact system you do to work out, your discipline and how you motivate yourself to attack your new problem.

Depression has a funny way of slipping through the cracks of what we know and taking control of the things we have already mastered. When we lose our ability to always be on top of things we should never lose our simpler truths that keep us in check every other day.

Losing grasp on who we are intrinsically, is the real way we lose the grasp on who we could be potentially. Also, our truest abilities are our ticket to overcoming depression all together. Every single human on the face of this earth is born with a light inside, something that keeps them going and it is what they do with that light that determines who and what they will be and be able to do.

When we are out of control we sometimes assume we have no way to gain a foothold because we are not used to the lack of knowledge of the subject. So, instead of giving up or losing our mind, let’s do what we CAN instead of what we can’t.

The Power of Sobriety

Looking at life through a filtered lense is sometimes the easiest way to navigate.

What if I told you there is a filter you are missing that not only minimizes hard lights and blemishes but completely restores and heals all it touches?

This is the power of sobriety.

When we face hard times in life, finding our guiding light is very difficult. Seeking solace through drugs, alcohol and bad relationships and environments can become second nature.

Putting up a wall of intoxication and poisons is a learned mechanism we have created to block out negative feelings and hold on to any happiness we do have.

In doing this we not only create worse feelings, we destroy the happiness we tried to hold on to.

Picture the glass of alcohol or wine or the line of drugs as the last stitch of happiness that you have. That happiness can be a 2 min high a 2 hour buzz or it can be the light that turns you away from the negative wall you have placed in front of you.

That light can guide you into a place where the beauty isn’t found through material things like drugs and alchohol but instead you will find your new highs and laughter through following your light into unknown territory.

This unknown territory is all the places you are afraid to visit.

These territories are full of hurdles. Boundaries, frustrastions. The exact feelings you are running from, and avoiding. These are the places you (believe it or not) miss.

These places are crying out to you, saying PLEASE! Heal me. I need your help.

Our innocence lies in waiting asking for our pain, hoping it gets the chance to teach us all it has learned.

Simple stress and little battles feel like mountains when you are consstantly looking for an escape. Traffic feels like a nightmare, commercials on the radio sound like hell, and all you can do is plan your next drink or pill.

Imagine a world where traffic makes you laugh, the commercials are interesting and you find happiness in every aspect of your life.

That is found through the miracle lens of recovery. Because it is not a lens, it is healing.

If we picture the child we were when we first started using and see that child lifting their hand up to us trying to pull themselves out of where they were left, that child is still inside you needing your help.

They know how hard it is for you, because they are right there with you.

They want to fight the hard times with you and have figured out bigger and better ways to deal with the problems of life.

You are here to teach each other the new way of life, for you both.

This will take work, tears and pain.

The other side of it will quickly catch up to you. Faster then you know, but there will still be days you want to escape.

Just remember the best escape is on the other side of the negative feeling, it is not by chasing that feeling into another bad night, another sick morning.

It is by going THROUGH that pain. Finding yourself on the other side of that pain is the highest feeling you will get. The longer you go the higher you will get.

The stronger you will be.

Sobriety is waiting for YOU!

Join in.

How to Stay Sober

Astral.BarHow to Stay SoberSober Living September 24, 2019

Staying sober is the best path you can choose in life. Mental clarity and health become abundant when we forfeit dark pleasures for abundance of true happiness. The simple act of staying sober is not always so simple.

Below is a list of activities to do when you get the urge to drink or use:

  • Go for a Walk
  • Listen to Music
  • Exercise
  • Clean Your Space
  • Make a Goal List
  • Call Friends or Family
  • Find New Hobbies
  • Cook a Wholesome Meal
  • Journal
  • Paint, Draw or Create
  • Hike
  • Watch an Interesting Film or Show

When we have urges to use they can sometimes feel like the only thing that matters. Getting the next fix is the only way we have figured out how to deal with our issues. We can be functioning or at rock bottom and still have the deepest need to look else where for happiness rather than in a dark place.

Other Activities:

  • Scrapbook
  • Re-Vamp Space
  • Create Chore Chart
  • Create Budget Plan
  • Crafts
  • Read a Book
  • Work Towards BIG Goals
  • Take a Bath
  • Buy Yourself Something Nice
  • Write a Letter to Someone You Care About
  • Meditation

Try these the next time you want to use and see how these simple activities can impact your life in a positive way, creating better brain function, healthier thoughts, and instant joy.

Sometimes staying sober can take more than simple fixes, seeing a Chemical Dependency Professional and/or joining an AA or NA program can do wonders, while also introducing you to new people.

Working through harder aspects of your life will free you from so many tortures.. you may wonder why you ever used in the first place.

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